So you know the drill - your boyfriend asks if he can come over so you can "talk". Oh that is the ultimate worst text message/email/phone call a girl can have I think. Because you just KNOW what's going to happen. And the pit of your stomach hurts and you already start crying and then think - "maybe I'm overreacting! Maybe he just wants to actually TALK!" ... but no. Alas, he comes over, you have the conversation and there you are again. SINGLE. So you cry the entire night, don't sleep a wink and wake up feeling even worse. How will you tell people? WILL you tell people? What could you have done differently? Could you have done anything differently? Is it you? Is it him? Is it just the universe? Who knows. But stop thinking about that - you have to think about how you are going to survive the day! Here are a few tips I found useful:
Tip 1: Use an eyeshadow base that notes it has a "refreshing feeling". I liked to use divine goddess luminizer from Sephora http://www.bareescentuals.com/Divine-Goddess-Luminizer). I tell ya what - this stuff makes your eyelids burn so bad you'd swear they're on fire! So much so that your eyes start watering - and viola! It appears you have been crying. So when people ask you at work "have you been crying? What's wrong?" You can simply say "of course not! It's my new eye shadow lumnizer!"
Tip 2: Wear all black. It's important to grieve the death of your relationship so you should dress appropriately. However a few new jewels to spice it up (I like to get mine from Stella and Dot (www.stelladot.com/sites/sarahlukas) always puts a pep in your step too.
Tip 3: Call one of your best girlfriend co-workers to set up a lunch date stat. If you are going to cry; you can at least do it in front of her and she won't care. It's good to plan in some cry times if you need it.
Tip 4: If you can eat at lunch, go all out. Who cares - calories don't count today. Right? And if you have an afternoon without meetings - have a margartia or a glass of wine too. This will take your worries away in no time.
Tip 5: Remember it's not the end of the world. You knew going into the relationship that one of the outcomes could be heartbreak - but you still took a risk and jumped in 2 feet first. You've been broken up with before and you lived through that - you'll live through it again! Promise! Just think of all the spare time you have now to re-fold all of the t-shirts in your drawers!
Tip 6: Remember you're good enough, you're smart enough and gosh darnit - people like you! You'll be back to your old tear-free self in no time!
